The Good Life
with a Southern Drawl

Friends With Sexual Tension

By Amy Bailey — June 30, 2014

Dear Belle and Beau,
I’ve been friends with this guy for 2 years. We’ve never dated and have always been in relationships with other people. Now we are both single and there’s something about the way he looks at me lately that makes me think he wants to be more than friends. I can’t really explain it, it’s like this unsaid attraction that seems to surface every time we are close to each other. Other people have noticed too, my friends say, ‘He really likes you’, ‘Did you see the way he was looking at you?’ And the thought to me is kind of exciting, too. I haven’t felt this way since I had my first kiss when I was a teenager. I don’t want to ruin our friendship though.
– Sexual Tension, 30, Sales Manager

Dear ST,
In the words of Bonnie Raitt, ‘Give ‘em something to talk about.’ There is nothing better than a relationship where you already know each other and are friends – you know that you get along, you know that you can make each other laugh, you know the things you have in common. However, if you do not think you share this attraction then you should not take the leap and risk the friendship, but it sounds as if you do have an attraction to him. This is the life you’ve been given to live – enjoy it and if you know you like someone more than friends then go for it.


Dear ST,
First let me say that it is possible for men and women to be friends, however as a male he has probably many times thought about you as more than friends. It’s just nature. It sounds like you both are attracted to each other so why not test the waters and see where it leads. Many times if you start out as friends then it is possible to go back being friends if things do not work out, it is typically when you try to be friends with someone you have only known romantically that it fails. Trust me some good ole fashion sexual tension is more exciting than any blind date or love at first sight story.